Oahu’s first adults-only hotel in the heart of Honolulu is the perfect Hawaiian getaway

Experience an unforgettable fusion of island charm and city energy at the Romer House Waikiki

Hawaii has always held a special place on my bucket list, though I often thought I’d visit later in life ­ perhaps on one of my honeymoons, during a mid-life crisis, when I retire, or even with a family that doesn’t exist yet. You know, God willing... Hawaii seemed like a destination best savored for a significant moment in life, much like the characters in season one of The White Lotus: the newlyweds, the family on a bonding trip, and the solo visitor there to spread her mother’s ashes, brilliantly portrayed by Jennifer Coolidge. But when the chance to finally visit Honolulu presented itself, I knew it was time to make that long-awaited trip a reality.

Honolulu, the vibrant capital of the Hawaiian Islands, boasts a population of just over 350,000. The state of Hawaii is made up of eight main islands but it’s O’ahu – the third largest – that is home to the majority of the state’s diverse population. A cultural crossroads rooted in the values and traditions of the Native Hawaiian people, O’ahu offers a unique blend of tropical relaxation and urban excitement. I’d never experienced anything quite like it. Everywhere exudes vacation vibes despite the city’s bustling energy and traffic that rivals Los Angeles or New York City.

Hawaii’s path to becoming part of the United States is fascinating. Originally an independent kingdom, it was annexed by the U.S. in 1898 and became the 50th state in 1959. Although the journey to get there – about a 5–6-hour flight from the West Coast—takes some time, the moment you land, you're welcomed by the warm, tropical breeze that immediately makes the trip worthwhile.

Honolulu’s weather is nothing short of idyllic, with average temperatures hovering around 80°F/25°C year-round. The beaches are postcard-perfect, with soft sands and crystal-clear waters inviting you to relax and unwind. And for LGBTQ+ travelers, Hawaii has long been a welcoming and inclusive destination, with a vibrant gay scene that adds to the island’s appeal.

At the center of it all is the newly opened Romer House Waikiki, an adults-only gem that’s as charming as it is accessible, perfectly located just steps away from all the action. Whether you’re exploring the lively streets of Waikiki, soaking up the sun on its famous beaches, or simply enjoying the laid-back vibe, Romer House offers the ideal home base for your Hawaii adventure. So, if you’re like me and have been putting off that trip to Hawaii, consider this your sign – it’s time to pack your bags and head to paradise.

Getting there

Traveling to Honolulu is easier than ever, with direct flights from major cities across the continental US. Airlines such as United, Delta, American, and the island's hometown carrier, Hawaiian Airlines, offer nonstop service to Honolulu, making the journey convenient and accessible. Hawaiian Airlines recently introduced daily nonstop service between Salt Lake City (SLC) and Honolulu (HNL). This new route adds to Hawaiian Airlines’s expanding network, which now includes 12 West Coast gateway cities, along with direct flights from New York and Boston.

A stylish affair

Located on vibrant Kuhio Avenue, Romer House Waikiki offers a serene, adults-only escape in the heart of Honolulu. Just steps from pristine beaches and the bustling International Market Place, this upscale haven blends island culture with modern luxury, reflecting Waikiki's mid-century charm across 179 thoughtfully designed rooms, many with private lanais for moments of tranquility. As Oahu’s first adults-only hotel with nightly rates starting at $229 (+ $45 resort fee), Romer House provides a peaceful retreat from the family-filled atmosphere typical of Waikiki, making it the perfect choice for those seeking a refined, relaxed experience. The hotel warmly welcomes pets and elevates each stay with exclusive perks, including complimentary bike rentals, a boutique featuring artisanal treasures, and it’s convenient ‘Aloha Line’ phone service – where you can text anytime during your stay for insider tips, personalized recommendations, or even request extra towels! Hawaii residents can also enjoy a 20 percent discount and waived resort fees through the Aloha Kamaʻāina special, making Romer House an ideal destination for both visitors and locals looking for a sophisticated island escape or staycation.

A culinary fusion

Dining at Romer House Waikiki is an experience to be savored. On the ground floor, Izakaya 855-Aloha offers a delightful fusion of Japanese-Hawaiian cuisine, perfect for a relaxed evening. While the food is exceptional, the cocktails truly steal the show. Sip on the Ring Ring Ring – a sophisticated mix of Kikori Japanese whiskey and Mr. Black coffee liqueur – or the Call Me Maybe, a vodka-based cocktail with a hint of Lillet Blanc, served with a handwritten note (mine said, ‘If you were words on a page, you’d be fine print’). These expertly crafted cocktails, paired with the lively setting, ensure an unforgettable dining experience.

Poolside bliss with a playful twist

For an even more laid-back vibe, head to the second-floor Backyard Pool and Bar, where you'll find a chic oasis. Whether you’re savoring a meal, enjoying a snack, or simply unwinding with a drink, the vibrant atmosphere and inventive menu make every moment special. Dive into luxury with a private cabana with poolside service or soak up the sun in one of the many loungers while a flavored hydration station and cruelty-free COOLA SPF products keep you refreshed and protected. The Backyard's menu boasts playful cocktails like Strawberry Bubblegum and Island in the Sun, adding a touch of merriment to your poolside festivities. Friendly and attentive staff enhance the experience, making the pool area not just a place to unwind but a highlight of your stay.

Astrology with a side of aloha

For a truly one-of-a-kind hotel experience, book an astrology reading with Romer’s resident astrologer, Ramona Sidlo (pictured second from the left). Imagine if Drew Barrymore’s free-spirited vibe retired to Hawaii and decided to read your horoscope – that’s Ramona. With her warm, welcoming energy and “been-there-done-that” charm, she has a knack for getting you to open up in no time. Ramona can provide profound insights into your true self through her readings, and uncover deeper aspects of your nature and personal journey. As Romer’s Regional Director of Experiential Marketing (or as they like to call her, The Mayor of the Block), Ramona’s job is to connect guests with the local scene, but she goes far beyond that. Whether it’s recommending the best spots to eat and drink, sharing her favorite hiking trails, or suggesting activities tailored to your interests, she’s got you covered. And if you can’t catch her in person, no worries – Ramona’s readings are available via Zoom, even after you've checked out.

Weekly happenings

Romer House has curated a lineup of events that celebrate the island’s vibrant lifestyle, offering a range of weekly activities to suit every taste. On Mondays and Saturdays, enjoy a poolside workout designed to enhance your glutes and strengthen your abs. Sunday mornings provide a relaxing floating sound bath in the heated pool, promoting relaxation and recovery. Tuesdays feature invigorating poolside Pilates, perfect for staying fit amid serene surroundings. As the week progresses, get your groove on with a sunset hula session by the pool every Thursday, and join the lively house party at Izakaya 855-ALOHA every Friday from 7 p.m. to 11 p.m, where you can socialize with locals and other guests. Saturday nights showcase the best in rap and reggae music, while Sunday evenings offer a laid-back “Industry Night” with DJ Compose spinning tracks. Cap off each night with late-night Happy Hour from 9 p.m. to 11 p.m.

Love thy Gayborhood Pride Package

While Honolulu observes Pride Month in June with smaller, community-driven events honoring the Stonewall riots, the official Honolulu Pride celebrations take place in October. This timing not only extends the festivities, offering the community and allies another chance to come together, but also takes advantage of Hawaii's warm and inviting October weather – perfect for outdoor events.

Romer House Waikiki is rolling out the rainbow carpet for Honolulu Pride with an exclusive Pride Package that celebrates the vibrant LGBTQ+ community. Available from October 1-31, this special offer includes 20 percent off the nightly rate and a custom ‘Love Thy Gayborhood’ merch pack featuring limited-edition items that honor iconic queer individuals and institutions in the neighborhood. Guests will also receive a curated map highlighting the best queer-owned businesses in town, perfect for exploring the local scene. Additionally, $10 from each reservation will be donated to the Legacy Foundation, a charity dedicated to uplifting local LGBTQ+ causes. Booking is open now until October 31.

Over at Romer Waikīkī at the Ambassador, the family-friendly sister hotel of Romer House Waikīkī, you can catch local drag queens Candi Shell and Miss Tara Way performing every third Saturday of the month. This event is also open to the public, offering a fantastic opportunity to mingle with locals and experience the lively community spirit.

Nearby attractions

Romer House places you within easy reach of some of Oahu's most captivating attractions. Adventure seekers can hike up Diamond Head for breathtaking views, while history enthusiasts will appreciate a visit to Iolani Palace, the former royal residence of Hawaii’s monarchy. For a magical evening, head to Magic Island Beach, the prime spot to watch the island’s vibrant fireworks display every Friday at 7:45 pm. Nature lovers will find serenity at Manoa Falls, a lush rainforest trail leading to a stunning waterfall. Golfers can enjoy a round at the nearby Ala Wai Golf Course, renowned for its scenic views and relaxed atmosphere. Discover even more highly recommended activities to experience during your stay in Oahu below.

Ride the waves and surf like royalty

For an unforgettable experience that immerses you in Hawaii's rich history and culture, a surf lesson at the Jamie O'Brien School of Surf in Waikiki is a must. Once reserved for Hawaiian royalty, surfing originated on these islands and continues to be deeply ingrained in the spirit of Waikiki—where modern surfing was born. There’s no better place to learn or elevate your skills. Under the expert guidance of Jamie O'Brien, one of the world's most fearless surfers and a recent inductee into the Surfers’ Hall of Fame, along with his elite team of handpicked local instructors, you can opt for a 1.5-hour private lesson tailored entirely to your abilities. Whether you're catching your first wave or refining your technique, this personalized coaching ensures an exceptional experience in one of the world's most iconic surf destinations. For those seeking a shared experience, the surf school also offers group lessons, allowing you to ride the waves alongside fellow enthusiasts. Or, if you’re in the mood to try something different, their stand-up paddleboarding sessions provide a unique way to explore the stunning coastline. It's a convenient and enriching addition to any Waikiki adventure, located just a short stroll from Romer House at The Twin Fin Hotel. And for those looking to extend their stay a few more days and level up their skills, The Twin Fin’s Surf & Stay Package includes a group surf lesson at the surf school, daily surfboard rental and late checkout.

Soar above Oahu in a gyroplane with Skyland Air

For a truly unforgettable adventure, take to the skies in a gyroplane with Skyland Air, where you’ll experience the best aerial views of Oahu’s breathtaking North Shore. Piloted by Jay Eisenberg, a former skydiving instructor turned pilot who even built the gyroplane himself, this one-of-a-kind 30-minute flight combines excitement with safety. After a brief on-ground demo (where, let’s be honest, you might zone out questioning your life choices), you'll realize it's all worth it once you're airborne. Flying at speeds of up to 65 miles per hour and cruising around 1,000 feet, the gyroplane offers an incredible perspective of the island’s natural beauty. As you climb to approximately 2,500 feet, Jay will point out hidden hiking spots, luxurious multi-million-dollar homes lining the coast, and some of the most stunning views you’ll ever see. It’s more than just an adrenaline rush—it’s a memory that will stick with you forever. And if you’re ever interested in getting your pilot’s license, this experience can even count as flight time! Perfect for adventurers aged eight and up, this flight is as educational as it is thrilling. At just $249 per person, it’s an affordable way to add a core memory to your Hawaii trip. For an extra $50, you can capture all the excitement on video to share with friends and family. Pro tip: if you’re in town for Pride, use promo code PRIDE25 for $25 off your booking!

Dolphins, turtles, and thrills: a perfect day with dolphins and you

Embark on a thrilling 3-hour adventure with Dolphins and You along Oahu’s untouched coastline, where dolphin watching and turtle snorkeling promise an experience you won't soon forget. Your journey begins with a convenient pickup in Waikiki, followed by a scenic hour-long drive to the boat, where a young, energetic crew will welcome you aboard. As you cruise along the coast, keep an eye out for spinner dolphins playing in their natural habitat, all while soaking in the breathtaking views from this unique vantage point. The adventure continues with a stop for snorkeling in the crystal-clear waters of the Pacific, where you'll have the chance to swim alongside vibrant tropical fish and the majestic Green Sea Turtles—just be sure to admire these protected creatures from a respectful distance. Beyond snorkeling, the boat offers kayaking, paddleboarding, and the exhilarating experience of sliding down a 20-foot inflatable sea slide. With lively music, complimentary lunch, great company, and even temporary tattoos for those looking for a fun photo op, this excursion is more than just a day on the water—it's a true island celebration. The day wraps up with a lively crew performance—one of the members even appeared on a season of The Voice. Life jackets are provided for all water activities, ensuring a safe and enjoyable experience for all. Pro tip: If you're prone to seasickness, take a motion sickness pill beforehand, and don't forget your coral reef-safe SPF!