Shahs of Sunset’s Reza Farahan spills on “tawdry” threesome with Biggest Loser trainer Bob Harper
Reza hooked up with Bob and his late husband.
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Reality stars, they’re just like us … messy AF!
Shahs of Sunset star Reza Farahan is no stranger to giving his opinion on just about everything and everyone. And that’s partly why he’s been such a fan favorite for years.
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But the 52-year-old outspoken reality vet, who currently stars on Bravo’s The Valley: Persian Style, is now turning the tables and spilling all the tea on himself.
Reza just released his new memoir, the amazingly titled Memoirs of a Gay Shah: My Story of Family, Fame, and Becoming a King, and it reveals all kinds of spicy deets about his wild sexcapades prior to becoming a Bravolebrity.
From friends to threesome
One of the juiciest hook-ups involved a friendship with Biggest Loser trainer Bob Harper that eventually evolved into a threesome relationship. It happens!
The duo first met working out at the same gym and became “inseparable” hanging out all the time. One thing lead to another and the men were soon more than platonic friends.
“Bob and I carried on like that for a good while. It was very much a friends-with-benefits situation, though,” Reza writes in the book, per People.
“I wanted more, but I always got the feeling he wasn’t interested in any kind of serious relationship with anybody, so I didn’t really push the matter.”
But turns out Bob wasn’t a f*ckboy, he was married!
According to Reza, Bob was wed at the time to a man named Scott. Plot twist!
Instead of that information ending the hook-up, a ménage à trois situation developed with all parties on board. But it soon got complicated as feelings got involved.
“Bob and I still ended up falling totally in love,” Reza adds. “For a while, Bob was bouncing back and forth between Scott and me.”
However, Reza notes that the trio relationship ended on a “bittersweet” note following an unexpected tragedy.
“Poor Scott, who I honestly harbored no ill will toward even though I was chasing his husband, ended up passing away,” Reza writes. “And even though Bob and I didn’t last forever, we remain friends to this day.”
While Reza doesn’t give a timeframe for when and he Bob were romantically involved, it appears to be prior to Shahs of Sunset‘s premiere in 2012.
This isn’t the first time Reza and Bob’s past has come up. Back in 2015, Bob himself confirmed the romp during an appearance on Watch What Happens Live.
Without going into specifics or mentioning his late ex, Bob admitted they had “a thing.”
“We had a thing—a very, very long time ago!” Harper told Andy Cohen. “It was a tawdry little thing!”
Maybe not-so little as far as Reza is concerned, but ok.
Bob Harper
Bob’s relationship – and possible marriage – to his late partner Scott was not previously known. He’s never spoken publicly about the relationship and there doesn’t seem to be photos of them together as a couple.
In 2019, Bob became engaged to his longtime boyfriend Anton Gutierrez. However in August 2025, the Traitors alum, 60, disclosed they had broken off their engagement.
Bob is currently single and teaching hot yoga near his NYC home.
Reza and Adam Neely
Interestingly, Reza also first met his husband Adam Neely at the gym. The duo began dating in 2010 and were engaged in August 2013. The proposal was featured in an episode during the third season of Shahs of Sunset.
They married in October 2015 during a surprise ceremony in Palm Springs, which was also filmed for an episode during the fifth season of the Bravo series.
Following their 10th wedding anniversary, both Reza and Adam have continued to share their romance for the cameras on The Valley: Persian Style.
The Valley: Persian Style can be streamed on Peacock and Reza’s book Memoirs of a Gay Shah: My Story of Family, Fame, and Becoming a King is out now.
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