How to share a hotel room and still get laid

You’re on vacation! But you’re sharing your room with your besties.

Maybe the island resort you’d all been swooning over only had one room available for your week out of town. Or Provincetown was booked solid over the July 4 holiday, and you graciously offered to share.

Or your boss just told you work is drying up next month, and you’re looking to save some cash. You gotta make up for it somehow.

Pack your bags, we’re going on an adventure

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However it happens, you find yourself sharing a hotel room with friends. Don’t worry, there are solutions to one item on all your holiday bucket lists: how you’ll get laid.

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1. Check in

You finally arrive at your hotel room, and just like the influencer promised, it’s gorgeous. Two big queen beds, a sleek flat screen you’ll never watch because pay-per-view bill (pro-tip: pack your own HDMI cable for adult content on the big screen), a well-stocked mini fridge you’ll never use (remember, you’re still on a budget), and a view to the pool and the beach beyond.

Now it’s time to check in with your friends.

You’re all anxious to hit the bar, but you need to lay the groundwork for getting laid. Make it clear from the start that you all deserve some alone time. Yes, they’ll say, but we want a drink.

2. Alone together

Just because you’re vacationing together doesn’t mean you need to be tight 24/7.

Over cocktails by the pool, ask your friends how they feel about doing your own thing once in a while. You’re besties but not a throuple; even those need a break. They’ll probably agree and feel included in the arrangement.

3. Use your time wisely

Suggest a little planning.

Keeping up with everyone’s itinerary can be helpful. If two of you want to hit the beach for a while, the room is available for the third. Keep the lines of communication open and schedule your Grindr date or hotel hookup accordingly.

4. Be respectful

With your friends off on a chaise lounge by the water, you have the room to yourself; make the most of it.

If your friends say they’ll be back in an hour, assume they’ll be back in an hour; say “See ya” to your hookup before it’s too late.

If you’re the one returning, be respectful and patient. If that Do Not Disturb sign is still on the door, take another lap around the grounds. Who knows who you’ll meet?

5. Keep it honest

If your friends suggest dinner but you have a date on the hook, don’t feign “you’re tired” and invite your catch over. Being honest about your true intentions now will avoid resentment later. Your friends might not be so patient or respectful when they find that placard on the door again.  

6. The Lazy Susan

One strategy to satisfy the unique demands of getting laid is rotating alone time in your hotel room. Assign a schedule between the three of you for staying out while you’re getting in.

How your potential dates line up to that schedule, if they do at all, can make this solution unpredictable, though. Expect to negotiate exceptions to the rule.

7. Bathroom break

Feeling desperate? The bathroom in better hotel rooms can be a water-based and private alternative to turning down a hot date while your besties are around. Fill up the jacuzzi tub and get sudsy. Where your friends will find relief is another question.

8. One room, two beds

Let’s face it: getting laid is unpredictable.

You might bring up this shared fact of life with your friends in your conversation over cocktails and feel them out about hitting it with a stranger in the bed they’re not sharing.

Maybe they’ll shut you down. Respect those feelings.

Maybe they’ll say, “Great, we’re in,” and we were going to suggest that anyway. Either way, you’ve reached a consensus together.

9. Free for all

The final strategy for sharing a hotel room and getting laid is no strategy at all.

At the pool over cocktails, your first day on vacation, you all agreed that you’re down for anything. Getting laid on this trip is your top priority.

Got a hot date? Invite him over. You’ll watch or join in.

If you’re not that into him, you’ll hit the gym or the hotel bar because there’s this cocky bartender you’ve been eyeing. Maybe you’ll invite him up.

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